Hello again. First of all I would like to apologize that there is not a lot happening a lot on my blog at the moment, as I am still in Paris. Because I am not able to provide you with anything by myself at the moment, I am even happier to present you a guest post by Lozza from Girly Gabble, who agreed to share her story with BPD. She has an amazing blog and you can find her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, so please give her all the support you can. I promise to be back when I return from Paris, but until then, enjoy this great post. ———————————————————————————————-
Hi everyone, I’m Lozza! A label-less blogger who often writes about mental health to raise awareness and help others.
I myself have been diagnosed with BPD which stands for Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD is also known as EUPD (Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder).A lot of people confuse BPD with Bipolar disorder and think that these two conditions are the same but although they may have some similarities they are completely different illnesses.
People who have BPD are likely to have trouble with the way they think/feel about others and themselves which can make it hard to maintain stable relationships. I have a handful of people who I have managed to maintain good relationships with due to this and that’s because I feel they really get me. Now I’m in my mid twenties I especially find it hard to maintain a new relationship with someone due to the fear of being judged and not being able to completely relax around someone new.
Some symptoms of BPD include:
- The fear of being abandoned by the people around you
- Feeling empty
- Having very intense emotions and mood changes that change quickly
- Thinking that you’re a bad person because of some thoughts you may have
- Hallucinations/hearing voices
- Impulsive behaviour
- Suicidal thoughts
The treatment offered for BPD is usually psychological therapy. I, myself had cognitive therapy, sessions with a counsellor, psychiatrist and psychologist and group sessions. Overall I found that one on one sessions with a psychiatrist was the most beneficial to me as I felt really listened to. I often find it difficult to describe how I’m feeling but my psychiatrist seemed to understand what I was trying to say and often finished my sentences for me when I was struggling so I felt a huge relief.
Although there is no cure for BPD treatment can help along with a suitable medication.Personally, I went through 4 different medication plans/tablets until I found something that worked for me. Usually the medication offered will be to ease the symptoms such as anxiety and depression and help each day become more manageable.
Around 1 in 100 people are diagnosed with BPD and it’s said to be 3 times more common in women than men. There are quite a few different reasons why someone may end up with BPD, childhood trauma being one of them, along with slight brain differences or genetics.
For anyone else who suffers with BPD, I have found there are a few things that I’ve tried that help me to manage. This includes:
Keeping a journal of my moods and thoughts throughout the day. This helps me to recognise my trigger points. If I have an episode as I call them where things spiral out of control and my BPD takes over then I can go back through my journal and see what happened throughout the day that may have triggered me.
Being open and honest with others about how I’m feeling and trying not to bottle things up. I constantly feel like I bad person with no real proof as to why. So by explaining to people how I’m feeling or talking openly about my condition helps me to feel more genuine and less paranoid about how people are seeing me.
Taking more time to do things I enjoy. Whether this is self-care or putting myself first more often and taking the time out I need. This helps me to feel less stressed and my symptoms become easier to manage when I’ve looked after myself more.
Remembering to eat. This may sound silly but I often forget to eat and have to remind myself to have meals every day. When I’ve eaten properly I feel so much better and like I’ve actually achieved something.
Refraining from isolating myself. Before my diagnosis (and for a while after) all I wanted to do was hide away and shut the world out. After I’d learnt how to manage my symptoms I felt like I could face people more and by saying yes to invites and plans more often I feel less alone because I’m no longer isolating myself.
If you’ve recently been diagnosed with BPD, as often as you may have heard this, you’re not on your own. It’s a tough condition to live with but by finding coping strategies that work for you, you can learn to live with it and things will get better. You’re stronger than you think.
If you’d like to read more about mental health support, you can check out my page here which includes links and numbers for helplines that may come in useful.
Love Lozza xo