Mood Swings And How To Deal With Them

I think everyone experiences mood swings once in a while. For some it is barely noticeable, but for others they can be quite extreme. I belong to the latter group. Only a few of my friends and family members (and my boyfriend of course) know what happens when I am on the roller coaster again. I have had this since I hit puberty and even though I am an adult now, I don’t have the feeling that it will be gone any time soon. Over the time, I have developed a few methods that really help me (at least most of the time). I would like to share them with you today and therefore wrote them down in an order that made sense to me. I hope you enjoy, and it will help you.

So, mood swings can happen in two directions, obviously. I would like to start with the ups and what you can do to not feel insane in the presence of other people. Usually positive mood swings are totally fine, and you should not do anything, because everyone likes to be happy and seeing their loved ones excited (thus the list is very short). Nevertheless, some situations require a more rational approach and then it would be unfortunate to jump into them heads first and make other people uncomfortable.

Positive moodswings are mostly very positive, but if they get to extreme, they can turn into something unpleasant…

Be quiet for a few minutes

If you feel like you are annoying anyone with your overly positive mood or you realise that you are far over the top than you would usually be or that your behaviour/mood is simply not appropriate for the situation (e.g. because someone just told you something serious or really personal), you might try to be quiet for a short while. This really helps me returning to my inner core and usually calms me down. It is important that we just listen to each other sometimes (ohhhh, I could make a whole blog post about that) and realise that we don’t have to talk all the time. If I realise that my friends are fed up with me being overly energetic and that I annoy them, it does help me to just shut up for a few minutes and listen to what they have to say. Most of the time I will be much calmer afterwards.

Think about what excites you

I can’t really tell, why this is so helpful to me, but I know when I think about reasons for my excitement and lay out everything in my head that I can let go a little bit. The hype inside me will be replaced with a much calmer, contempt feeling. I feel relaxed and can focus on other things around me instead of obsessing about whatever got me excited in the first place.

So, I think that’s about it, regarding the tips for positive mood swings. I like to embrace them once in a while, especially, because they don’t happen to me as often as the downs. Turning to the negative mood swings: I approach them differently than the positive ones. For me getting better often involves taking care of my body, because sometimes it happens that I neglect it, but when I have a mental breakdown and can’t do anything else, because I am unable to focus, I just like doing something good for myself.

Take a shower

For a long time, I did not really consider this an option, since showering was only supposed to get me clean, but it turned out as a very useful method to restore energy and lift my mood a little bit when I had one of my lows again. It only works however, if you are really present in the moment and don’t think about something else, since then it won’t help and might even stress you out more. Be aware of what you are doing and that it will affect your wellbeing positively. I have always felt comfortable when there was water around me, so this was a good way to give my body and mind a little break. If this is nothing for you don’t worry, there are a few more things on my list.

Taking a hot shower not only helps the mind, it also relaxes muscle tension and clears the skin.

Watch a good movie

I could give you a really long list with movie recommendations, but because this is something very individual, I doubt that it will be a lot of help for most people. You know best what genres you like, so just look for anything in that genre you might like. If there is something new that’s great, if not, I would also recommend to try new genres sometimes, because you might be surprised about how much you can fall in love with something you used to despise (I speak from experience). The important thing here is as well: Don’t get hung up in your thoughts. If you already cried for some time, you need to get out of your head or it will get even worse. It might not sound very fancy or advanced, but sometimes simple distraction can be a big help to get you out of this hole.

Read a book

One of my favourites. Works just as well as the movie thing, maybe even better. Reading might not be for everyone, but for the people out there who love books, this is the way to go. I also need to mention that it does not have to be a new/unknown book (movie) that you decide on. You can just as well grab you old and creasy copy of Harry Potter or The Hunger Games.

For me books are the best way to get my mind off something, but this might not work for everyone.

Talk to someone

You probably saw this coming, but yes, of course it’s on here. Why? Because it helps. I also don’t particularly enjoy talking to someone when my whole face is swollen and my hair looks messy and I can’t breathe through my nose, but it really helps to get everything off your chest. Talk to someone you trust and who knows you well. They will be there for you (and seriously, who does not love a good hug) and do everything they can to make you feel better. Nevertheless, it can always happen that there isn’t anyone available, then you can still do all the other steps.

Have something sweet to eat

Having something sweet nearby when feeling miserable often helps me when things are really bad. However, this is not a healthy solution.If your mood swings come very regularly., it can very quickly turn into excessive eating and before you even realise it, you are ten pounds heavier. It was proven though that chocolate can have a positive influence on our mood, even if it only lasts for a short time.

So, I think that is it for today. I am always happy to hear about your personal experiences and your own tips, so if you would like to add something to this, write a comment.

22 thoughts on “Mood Swings And How To Deal With Them

  1. Great & accessible post. Lovely simple ways to look after yourself at difficult times. I often reach for a nice slice of comedic relief- really is what I’m craving at my low ebbs…..or music.
    What i liked the most was hearing your experience- felt connected and less alone in my own stuff.
    Thank you.
    Peace and love,
    Spence 😀

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    1. Thank you so much for these kind words. I always think that feeling less alone makes a huge difference already. And yes listening to music or watching funny videos are great ways to make yourself feel better as well.

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  2. I think this is some great advice. The only thing I could think to add is that, if you’re the friend of someone experiencing a positive mood swing, then try not be annoyed – try to be happy for the person instead, and listen, even if they’re talking a lot! I just think that, although we should be considerate towards other people, there’s no need to dampen a good mood on purpose, especially if it’s not that common 🙂


  3. I can definitely relate to this post on so many levels 🤨. I am moody mainly durning my period. My crystals, medidation and watching a good film or just having a good chat helps alot. I love the tips you give above. Especially because all of us have moods like this. It’s ok to acknowledge it and then move forward from it.

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    1. I am glad to hear that I am not the only one experiencing these rollercoasters on a regular basis. I feel like everyone figures out their own little tricks and twists over time, but until then I thought that a few ideas might help.


  4. So many great tips. My favourites are; reading a book, having a shower, and speaking with someone. Important to note that getting out of a particular mood is not for someone else to do for you! So if you feel like you end up depending on people its always good to swing the pendulum and get yourself out of it too.

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    1. I definitely agree. In making other people responsible for your well-being you would not only put a lot of pressure on them, but at the same time you would be giving away the ability to influence your mood yourself.

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  5. Nice post! You do a good job of writing in a way that is very relatable. Many of your suggestions work for me just as a way to reset my mood and mindset. Many of them seem to be ways to take time to oneself in a less stimulating setting, or making a connection with a good friend. Nice work.



    1. Thank you so much Roger. It’s nice to see that you are back. And yes, I do think that having time to yourself and taking a step back often helps in very stressfull or tense situations.

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